When it comes to grief, most of us immediately think of The Five Stages of Grief presented by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her book, On Death and Dying: 1. Denial and Isolation, 2. Anger, 3. Bargaining, 4. Depression, and 5. Acceptance. What isn’t well-known is that this grief model applies to people with a terminal illness - THEY are dying.
For those who are experiencing grief in their lives and who are not dying, we must add anxiety to the grief process. Claire Bidwell Smith does an amazing job of explaining the role of anxiety as it relates to grief in her book, ANXIETY, The Missing Stage of Grief.
We are learning a lot from Ms. Smith, and her book brought up a memory for Ada that helped her realize JUST YESTERDAY her experience with anxiety as it relates to moving in her childhood – which was definitely a SIGNIFICANT LOSS to her.
It was the night before our big move from Seattle, WA to Grand Junction, CO. I was crying – wailing –...
A few weeks ago, we started our newest group, GRIEVING TOGETHER. We have wanted to offer a group with this focus for a very long time. What’s unique about our group is that we are creating a space that welcomes anyone who has experienced a SIGNIFICANT LOSS – as opposed to focusing only on the death of someone close. Additionally, this significant loss does not have to be recent. It could have been experienced many years ago.
The reason we are opening our group up in this way is because our coaching experience has shown us that people suffer from loss every day, and there are very few places where they can be comfortable enough to feel and share their pain. In our group, a significant loss is a significant loss – and each and every situation is held with tenderness and care.
During the past few meetings, we have talked about many different losses. While the losses have taken various forms, what has been consistent is the respect extended which honors what this...