When it comes to grief, most of us immediately think of The Five Stages of Grief presented by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her book, On Death and Dying: 1. Denial and Isolation, 2. Anger, 3. Bargaining, 4. Depression, and 5. Acceptance. What isn’t well-known is that this grief model applies to people with a terminal illness - THEY are dying.
For those who are experiencing grief in their lives and who are not dying, we must add anxiety to the grief process. Claire Bidwell Smith does an amazing job of explaining the role of anxiety as it relates to grief in her book, ANXIETY, The Missing Stage of Grief.
We are learning a lot from Ms. Smith, and her book brought up a memory for Ada that helped her realize JUST YESTERDAY her experience with anxiety as it relates to moving in her childhood – which was definitely a SIGNIFICANT LOSS to her.
It was the night before our big move from Seattle, WA to Grand Junction, CO. I was crying – wailing –...